Happy Birthday Ben

Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of heavenly lights…James 1:17

Happy Birthday Ben!

Today, you are one year old, and we are so thankful for you.

On this day, one year ago, you came into this world. I wish we knew more and had more to share of that day. We don’t. What we do know is on that same day, 8,000 miles away, we received approval from the Central Adoption Resource Authority to adopt a child from India, and we took one step closer to you.

Three weeks later, on March 15, 2019 you entered the care of your SAA where you have been for the past 11 months. We are so thankful for the way they have cared for you and loved you.

Five months later, on August 2nd, you came into our lives. We saw your name, we saw your picture, we saw you. A few days later, we said yes, and in our hearts, you became our son.

On November 27th, court began to determine what we already knew in our hearts. You were our son. On January 23, 2020. It became official. You were part of our family.

One year, from the day you were born, we are waiting and celebrating. Your room and bed are ready and so are your bothers. I have no doubt that you are loved in India, but you have more love than I can comprehend waiting for you here from family and friends who have linked arms to bring you home and wait with anxious excitement. 

Our hearts ache not to be with you today. We mourn the brokenness and pain that began this process. We wish we had more of your story to share. But, your story is just beginning. We love you. We are thankful to be a part of your story. We can’t wait to meet you and move forward to the next chapter. 

Happy Birthday Ben!

No Shame in the Small Step

I’ve had seasons of physical fitness in my life, but it’s fair to say I’m not currently in one of those seasons. Over the past ten years I’ve trained for triathlons, marathons and tony-hortons. I thrive on a workout calendar. My soul savors every check box and every crossed-out-day completed. 

In fact, over the last three months, I’ve had several marathon research sessions to discover my next challenge. But, in the midst of my search for the perfect program, I’ve failed to do one thing. Exercise. Without a plan, my motivation tanked. I tend to be an all-or-nothing type. If I can’t exercise for an hour, I won’t exercise at all. Why run if there’s no miles to record and chart?

That changed Sunday. I took a step, a tiny step. Ten minutes. Lunges, Pushups, Planks. To my brain, it was a small step. My breathing had a different opinion. Two days later my legs also tell a different story. And, I’ve learned something. There’s no shame in the small step.

We all desire to see transformation in some area of our life: physically, spiritually, socially, financially. And many of us want the complete chart and calendar before we make a move. A strategy is good. A step forward is better.

Honestly, I’ve hesitated for far too long in posting. I wanted a writing plan. I’d prefer to have a list of posts planned out. But this is my small step. And, there’s no shame in the small step. What’s yours? What could you do today?

Adoption Update #2

It’s been a crazy couple of months since the last post in July. Let me catch you up…

From July to September we completed what is called the home study process. It’s called a home study, but everything get’s studied. We gave family histories, took medical tests, made a visit to a psychologist, watched videos, read books, and completed paperwork.

The home study had two main purposes. First of all, it is used to assess whether we are fit to bring a special needs child into our home. Secondly, the process is used to educate potential parents on the special considerations of adopting a child internationally.

The process was stressful, exciting and confusing, but we made it, and our home study is complete!

Roughly four weeks ago, our completed home study was uploaded to an organization called CARA. CARA is the          Central Adoption Resource Authority. Essentially, it is the governing body that oversees the adoption process in India. 

So, we are now playing the waiting game. We are praying for approval from CARA, which could take a few weeks, to a few months. Once we receive approval from CARA, our next step is being matched with a child. Let me just say, it’s starting to feel real.

Even after matching with a child, there are several significant steps to take, but  as of now, that’s where we stand.

We covet your prayers as we await approval from CARA. We cannot wait to see what God will do through this process and look forward to sharing with you soon.

Thanks for the love and support!!

Jonathan, Shannon, Cole and Luke

Now Over Next

I keep a giant 6×3 foot calendar hanging on my office wall. It helps me see an entire year with one glance: birthdays, family trips, camps, mission trips…

I received my 2019 calendar in the mail a few weeks ago and made an immediate and short-sighted decision. In my excitement about the year to come, I replaced my 2018 calendar and begin filling in the dates.

There’s only one problem. We still have 2 months left in 2018.

That’s probably pretty characteristic of my life. I love looking forward to what’s next. I’m probably not alone in this. We all look forward to the next trip, the next vacation, the next party, the next goal.

But, what if in the midst of looking for what’s next, we miss what Jesus is doing now?

There’s a scene in the opening chapters of John, where Jesus is at a wedding and the wine runs out. His mother brings the problem to Jesus, and this is his response…

Woman, why do you involve me?” Jesus replied. “My hour has not yet come—John 2:4

While Jesus does step in and save the family from embarrassment, these words still stand out. My hour has not yet come.

Throughout the Gospel story, people try to push Jesus forward. They try to accelerate their plan. They try to gain a following and pursue power, to which Jesus continually responds: Now is not the time.

Jesus knew what was next. But, He also knew His responsibility for each day. He didn’t rush it.

Instead of getting caught up in everything that must happen down the road, what if we took a moment to stop and consider now? What would Jesus have you do today? This hour? Or maybe even this moment?

When we rush from now to next, we may miss what our Master wants to show us in the moment.

Suffer or Serve

Blessed are those who have been persecuted for the sake of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.—Matthew 5:10

This is the eighth Beatitude. It’s different. 

I can understand the attitude of humility that comes with being poor in spirit. I recognize the need for mourning over sin. Gentleness, mercy and peacemaking are clearly characteristics worth pursuing. We should all be pure in heart with a hunger and thirst for righteousness.

But, blessed are those who have been persecuted? What do we even do with this verse?

It’s a verse that must have meant the world to the early church. It’s a verse our brothers and sisters across the world live out every day.

But for those of us who sit in padded pews or stop by the church coffee shop, what do we do with these words of Jesus?

Do we feel guilty for not enduring the same hardship? Do we seek out situations to suffer for His sake? How does this verse connect with our lives?

It was just a few weeks ago that Hurricane Michael sent many scrambling. Trees fell, houses crumbled, lives were changed for farmers and families. During the first few days of the coverage, the pictures and videos were all the same. Destruction.

But, then the story began to change. Restoration and Rebuilding.

Teams of people from all over the country stepped in to serve, and the stories began to shift. I’m especially proud of how the Christian community steps in during these times of need. 

Some suffer. Some serve.

But, my guess is that the news will shift to something else before all the rebuilding is completed. Coverage always ends before construction.

Maybe, that’s a way to understand this passage.

Some suffer. Some serve.

We have brothers and sisters in the faith who suffer each day for their faith. Some suffer. 

As believers, we have the opportunity to pray, to give, and perhaps even go to be an encouragement to believers born into more difficult circumstances than our own. Some serve.

But, in order to serve, we have to see. The Voice of the Martyrs offers a free app with daily updates on persecuted peoples and countries along with a way to pray.

If we don’t suffer, we serve. Find a way to pray, give or go.

Blessed are those who are persecuted for the sake of righteousness, for their’s is the kingdom of heaven.—Matthew 5:10

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Peace and Pumpkin Spice

It’s October, and there’s plenty to look forward to. Fall weather, flannel and familiar flavors. That’s right. Pumpkin Spice!

Maybe it’s a recent phenomenon but I feel like the pumpkin spice people are getting pushy. It’s started off with the lattes but now they are invading every aisle in the store: muffins, donuts, cereal, candy, candles, cologne and body spray… Ok, I may have stretched it a little. But pumpkin spice is pervasive.

While pumpkin spice is everywhere you look, the same can’t be said for peace. Watch the news, scroll though Facebook, have an everyday conversation and you see it, feel it, and most likely take part in it. Anger, bitterness and conflict.

Many seem intent on division. And many more are content to avoid conflict and keep the peace. But few would be defined as peacemakers.

We either stir the pot or step out of the situation. But, if we want to live like our Savior, it means being a peacemaker.

Maybe it means sacrificing our preferences for the good of others. Maybe it means putting a stop to gossip. Maybe it means offering forgiveness. It can take a thousand different forms, but peace is needed. And Jesus calls us to make it.

I don’t know whose job it is to market this fall flavor, but they need a raise. It’s everywhere.

What if we were as determined to spread peace in our families, friendships, neighborhoods, churches and workplaces.

I could stand for a little more peace and a little less pumpkin spice. What are some steps you could take to pursue peace in your relationships?

Pure Hearts, Pure Moments

Well, I got off track. I’d been faithful to post once a week, but a busy weekend got the best of me. Our student ministry took a trip to raft the Chattahoochee. It was an incredible trip. We rafted a class five rapid. We zip lined from Georgia to Alabama,. We took time to worship with one another.

To be gut honest with you, it was much easier to be purely in the moment when rafting and zipping than during worship. We had a great speaker, an amazing worship leader, and a pretty awesome set-up. At the same time, there was a party going on in the street below, my shoes were wet from the water, and I couldn’t help running through the weekend schedule and to do list in my mind.

I want to see God. More than anything else, I want to see God through His Word, in answer to prayer, and working in my life for the benefit of others. At the same time, being pure in heart, single-minded and focused is such a struggle. 

Why can I have pure moment rafting but skimp on time that could be spent savoring the Savior?

Let’s go back to the boat. First of all, there’s no escape. We are in the boat for better or worse. Second, I’m not alone. There’s six of us paddling together in unison. Without working together, we are bound to fail. Third, there is a clear situation calling for my attention. 

Perhaps if I saw my everyday life the same way, I would experience more pure moments with my Master. Maybe if I was aware of the potential dangers and pitfalls, I’d be persistent in prayer. Maybe if I more closely walked with others, my worship would be more purposeful. Maybe if I set aside uninterrupted, non-negotiable time with Jesus, I’d experience more of His joy.

There’s plenty of things in life worth seeing. Let’s not miss out on seeing Jesus. Blessed are the pure in heart for they shall see God. 

Songs that Stick

Every so often someone asks a question that flips the world upside down. Nearly, 19 years ago, the Baha men accomplished that feat with this simple question: Who let the dogs out? Who? Who? Who? The question probably isn’t significant nor is the song really that good, but it is catchy. Songs are like that. 

We can go years without hearing a song, but in a moment those words come rushing back to our mind and hold on tight, not wanting to leave. It could be a pop song, a Youtube sensation, a TV theme song, or even a commercial jingle. Some music we just can’t get out of our mind.

The same could be said of offenses. When people insult or hurt us, it stings and we remember. We hold on. We don’t forget. And, then there’s Jesus.

Jesus didn’t hold on to our offenses. He took them to the cross, paid the penalty, and offers us forgiveness, over and over.

I could stand to be more like Jesus. I could stand to extend mercy.

But, mercy isn’t simply about forgiving those who have caused you suffering. Mercy is seeing and serving those who are suffering around you.

Throughout Jesus’ ministry we see Him reaching out to the rejected, the sick, the outcast, the broken. 

While certain thoughts and words hang around in our head, we are able to dismiss others fairly quickly. That’s often how we view the suffering of others. Out of sight, out of mind. 

God calls us to more. We must learn to forgive those who have caused us to suffer. And we must learn to serve the suffering. 

I love what Mother Theresa had to say:

I never look at the masses as my responsibility; I look at the individual. I can only love one person at a time – just one, one, one. So you begin. I began – I picked up one person. Maybe if I didn’t pick up that one person, I wouldn’t have picked up forty-two thousand….The same thing goes for you, the same thing in your family, the same thing in your church, your community. Just begin – one, one, one. 

My Prayer: Father God, may your story of mercy be continually playing in my mind. Help me to see the needs around me and faithfully step in to serve those suffering.

Ice Cream and Jesus

The Tchoupitoulas Challenge. It’s impossible to pronounce but worth the effort. This ice cream creation is a product of the Creole Creamery in New Orleans, and it’s the only food challenge I’ve ever seriously considered. I have little interest in the worlds spiciest wings or the nations meatiest burger. But, something seemed magical about eight scoops of ice cream, eight toppings, whipped cream, sprinkles, cherries and wafers.  

I never attempted the feat, partially for the fact that it cost $30 but also out of fear I may come to hate ice cream, which would be an unparalleled tragedy. The truth is no one wins these food challenges. It may start off fun, but they always end in stomach aches.

I’ve never craved kale and quinoa. I know I should. I know I need to fuel my body well. But, what I crave is pizza, cheese covered anything, and an Outback Bloomin’ Onion.

In much the same way, I’m not naturally inclined to hunger for righteousness. I hunger for what umps up my pride, provides pleasure, and allows my mind to momentarily check out. I know I should pursue righteousness, but there are so many other tantalizing options. How do we change? How do we transform our spiritual tastebuds?

The Fit Friend:

The more I’m around my carrot eating Cross-fit friends, the more I care about the food I consume. The more I’m around prayerful, mission minded, heart-for-Jesus people, the more I hunger to live like them.

The Registered Race:

If I’ve signed up for a race, I’ll eat well. Jogging isn’t enjoyable on a stomach full of junk. When I’ve signed up to serve, I depend on Jesus, and I seek His righteousness.

The Definite Difference

When I see a change in what the scale says or how my clothes fit, I’m more likely to keep my good eating habits. When I notice a change in my heart, words, actions, it reminds me that Jesus is working in my life. And, I’m satisfied.

Do any of those jumpstart a hunger for righteousness in your life? What would you add to the list?

Praying that we would hunger after what really matters!

Stretch Don’t Snap

While they’ve faded as fast as the fad arrived, fidget spinners were all the rage for a few short months. You couldn’t go anywhere without the seeing a child spinning the trinket between their fingers. Although the fidget spinner was absent from my childhood, I had something far better: the rubber band.

There was no end to the possibilities. You could wear it, stretch it, connect it, or shoot it.. But, in elementary school, our game of choice was sending little paper projectiles flying across the classroom. We called them wasps, and for good reason. If one connected on bare skin, it was sure to leave a mark.

Most of our games were anything but gentle. There had to be some degree of violence. Slapping, thumping or pencil breaking. As an adult, I’ve left those games behind. But, sadly, I can be pretty quick to snap at others with similar force. James pretty much has me pegged.

from the same mouth come both blessing and cursing—James 3:10

Let someone mess up my order, cut me off in traffic, or simply be rude, and I’m snapping back. The smallest outward inconvenience turns into an intense inner situation. And, then I think of Jesus.

He was oppressed and He was afflicted, Yet He did not open His mouth—Isaiah 53:7

In the midst of undeserved and ultimate insult and humiliation, Jesus kept silent, living out His teaching from the Beatitudes.

When most of us hear gentle or meek, we think weak. We think getting run over. We think spineless. But, do any of those words describe Jesus? Jesus was gentle, but no one would call Him weak. Nails did not hold Jesus to the cross. He chose in his strength to stay and suffer.

Instead of weakness, gentleness is simply surrendered strength. Gentleness is choosing to submit your strength to the Savior. Strength isn’t for your benefit. It’s to serve others.

No doubt you will face insult and inconvenience today. Be the rubber band. Stretch, don’t snap. Surrender your strength. Love your neighbor as yourself. Follow the footsteps of Jesus.